The Problem With Self Esteem
It's been said often and in many different ways that
it's not what happens to us that matters most. It's how we react or
respond to what happens. "There is nothing either good or bad,"
Shakespeare had Hamlet say, "but thinking makes it so." And there's
probably no greater area in our lives where this is so apparent and
important-- especially when dealing with self-esteem-- as what are
Although there are math problems and word
problems and chess problems and rock climbing problems that people
approach as entertainment and challenging fun, there is an almost
universal truth; for most of us, problems are bad. Even the dictionary
A problem is a situation, matter, or person that presents perplexity or difficulty: urban problems such as traffic congestion and smog; the philosophical problem of evil. Problems are difficult to deal with or control: a problem child; problem customers.
My dictionary even asks me to; "See note at
dilemma," and there's nothing very good about "the equally unfavorable
or mutually exclusive proposition" of a dilemma. Nor is there any
encouragement gained from looking at the most common synonyms for
problem: annoyance, complication, difficulty, disruption, disturbance,
drawback, headache, hindrance. . . the list of "bads" goes on.
problem is an obstacle, something we must solve in order to achieve a
goal. It stands between us and our desires, dreams and often what we
think (or would like to think) we deserve. But then there's this bit
from Richard Bach's book Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah:
"There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts."
Seems Mr. Bach believes somewhat as I do about problems. I think that. . .
You are an infinitely powerful spiritual being connected directly to
God-- the Source of all creation, intelligence, abundance, health,
wealth and joy.
• You are responsible for everything that happens
in your life. It may not be "your fault. . . " You may not be "to
blame. . . " And, YOU are responsible. (Who else could be?)
• You create problems, because you deeply desire to learn what it takes to solve them.
• You create problems, because of who you will become by working through them.
• You create problems, because in order to have more and better. . . you need to do more and better. . . and be more and better.
You create problems, because you are an infinitely powerful spiritual
being connected directly to God-- the Source of all creation,
intelligence, abundance, health, wealth and joy.
What your mind believes you will achieve-- always and in all ways.
I appreciate you!
John Milton Fogg is an internationally recognized writer, editor, speaker and coach. He authored the million-selling classic, The Greatest Networker in the World. His most recent project is BeliefBusters and his vision is to have over 30-million people change their lives for the better forever by shifting their unwanted, self-sabotaging beliefs to empowering beliefs that assure their success fast, in a proven way that lasts. To sign up for your free weekly BeliefBusters Report and learn more about this life-changing 3-month course to Build Self-Esteem... Stop Negative Thinking... and Be Healthy, Wealthy and Happy please visit us today!